This post in no way is me being judge mental if it comes across that way I am sorry. Each person is entitled to their own opinion. You may breast feed your child till any age and that is fine, I am just saying that I wouldn’t and my opinion is it is to old. I will not tolerate rude comments, I would love your insight on this subject matter. I am learning too, and I want to hear all sides. Please don’t be rude or hateful or your comment will just be deleted. If you breast fed longer than 2 I would love to hear why, maybe I will change my opinion. I do understand that breast feeding in other cultures goes on longer than here in the US and that some people believe in self weaning that takes longer. I also know that in some countries this is the only way that children can get adequate nutrition. Please don’t be harsh to me or any of the readers. We are entitled to our own opinions right wrong or indifferent. Thanks.
I am no expert when it comes to the area of breast feeding, but I came across a blog post the other day that just irked a nerve. Before I share with you the post, I want to let you know that I am in no way against breast feeding at all. I really am all for it, I truly think that the bond you share with your child while being able to meet their needs is irreplaceable. Not only are you able to provide for the best nutrition for your baby, you are the sole provider for all their needs. The bond between a mom and a child is one that can’t be matched. I also believe that moms know best and they know there child. While this women still breast feeds her child there may be a medical need behind it or something. A lot of parents breast feeding past 2 is because of attachment Parenting. (Images above are not the mom from the blog post).
Lets talk a little bit about attachment parenting for a minute. Parents seek close emotional bond with their babies, this continues on all through childhood. Attachment parenting focuses on the nurturing connection that parents can develop with their children. That nurturing connection is viewed as the ideal way to raise secure, independent, and empathetic children. Attachment parenting parents think is ok because it focuses more on treating children like adults that can be reasoned with. IF this is the case then I don’t understand why they feel it is ok to still breast feed a child that is 4. Treating children like adults gives them a great since of responsibility and holds them reliable for their actions. These are all great. I just don’t know what emotional toll it will take on a child that is that old. Can you imagine them going to preschool and them saying something about still nursing. I feel like if you child can come up to you and unbutton your shirt they are too old to nurse.
I feel like the same rules apply to breast feeding as bottle feeding, once your child can drink cows milk ,you should stop breast feeding or try and wean them. By the age of 2 I think breast feeding should be completely done, and lastly when in public I think you should cover up and breast feed discretely. These are just my opinions each person is entitled to their own opinions and mine may not be the same as yours and that is ok.
So here is the blog post, and I am leaving out names and URLS to protect the person’s privacy.
My child is 4 years old & still nurses quite often. Just the other day I was sitting on the couch reading a book, rare down time while my kids were taking a nap. My child woke from his nap early & came & sat down next to me. I noticed that my child trying to snuggle with me, so I put down the book & put my arms around my child & we snuggled, I looked down into his eyes. Then after a few minutes they started nuzzling my breast, & my child said ” mommy I want to nurse on your boobies”. So I sat my child up & he started unbuttoning my shirt, I wasn’t wearing a bra, my child partially took my shirt off, layed down in my lap & latched on to by breast, he nursed for quite a while, 45 minutes, nursing from both breasts, then he latched off & hugged me, it was wonderful, just one of many joys of breastfeeding.
Now I know like I said earlier that breast feeding is best, but to me there is something wrong with this picture. Why is this 4 year old preschool child still nursing? At the point of being 4 years old the child is now at the preschool age and now longer a toddler. In my opinion he should no longer be nursing. Children at this age are so impressionable, and they are changing like crazy. I just find it really inappropriate to be that old and still nursing.
I would love to hear your feelings on this. I am not a mom yet, and have not breast fed. My opinions are only coming from being a childcare provider.