I want to recap yesterday and give you my thoughts today about yesterday, and then I will get into the subject of working moms and breast feeding. I do know a lot about this subject due to working in infant rooms and working with infants. I have also talked to lots of moms who are breast feeding and still work.
Well yesterday I got a lot of response on my post breast feeding- Some negative, some positive, and some that just hurt my feelings. All in all it is ok though, I am not a mom and I have no clue about what to do when it comes to breast feeding. I will have to take some kind of classes to make sure that I do it right. I can honestly say that I am more open about breast feeding your child at older ages than a year now, than I was before. Your insights have helped a lot and now I understand that you all want what is best for your child. Some of you don’t wean yet because you want your child to be ready, some of you because of your culture, and some because you just feel it is best for your baby. A lot of what I was getting was that that is what the breast is for is to provide nourishment for your child.
Boy oh boy was I surprised that I would offend so many of you, that was not my intent at all. I was not looking for you to side with me, I was looking for a reason as to why you chose to breast feed your children for longer than a year old. I sure did get it, and I am much more open now. I am also more open to why people don’t cover up in public. So thank you for all of your comments, and thank each and everyone of you for sharing. I got a couple comments that I came across as judgmental and that I had no empathy. This is also not the case. If I had no empathy, I would have left the bog post the way it was and just have had it be done. I changed where their were names and the genders. I also edited it so that you would know that I am not intending this post to offend anyone. I understand that to most of you this is a sensitive subject due to you always getting judged for your choices. I didn’t realize that I would make so many of you upset. I am truly sorry for that. I am not sorry for posting the post because it is still my opinion that 4 is a little to old to be breast feeding. However even though my opinion may not be changed I am more open to breast feeding older children. I will not go out in public if I see someone breast feeding an older child and be so judgmental.
I am going to say this too, yes I am not a mom, but just because I am not a mom doesn’t mean I don’t know what it feels like to be a mom. I am a nanny, and I have been there since day one of a lot of the children I have taken care of, and I have helped along with their parents raise them. I have over 15 years experience working with children of all ages, and I also have education in Early childhood. James and I have been trying to conceive now on and off for over 6 years with no success so some of the comments about not being a mom are hurtful. They might have not been meant to be, and I realize not a lot of you are regular readers so you don’t know. I never thought that breast feeding your child was something sexual, I think it was the wording that was used in the blog comment that made it seem like it was sexual. I know that breast feeding is best and it is natural. I have never said it isn’t. I also know that when I have kids of my own, everything will change. I can still tell you this at this time, I don’t plan on breast feeding past 2. This is what I created this blog for was to help others, including me. If you missed yesterdays post you can find it here: http://anannysperspective.com/2013/10/23/breast-feeding/
Now to a subject I know a lot about and hopefully I wont get any hate mail for this. When I first started out working with kids it was not as common as it is now for moms to stay at home. I am sure that back in the day it was, and now it is become poplar again. I think this is due to the cost of childcare sky rocketing and because moms want to be moms and take care of their kids. For some people it is because they want to have that bond with their child and take care of their child and be there when ever they need them. For me it will because I don’t want to miss any of those first and because it is so expensive for childcare. Some of us however don’t think that not working is a good option for them financially or just because they feel like they need to work. I always say that being a mom is a full time job you just don’t get paid in money. You don’t get paid in money you say, no you get paid in hugs, kisses, and giggles.
So to what I wanted to talk about. When I started out my career in childcare I worked with all ages but mainly infants. We had moms that would come in on their lunch break to nurse their babies, and they would pump so that the babies could have bottles the rest of the day. When they were at home they would solely breast feed. Sometimes it was really sad because mom would get upset that she had to leave and go back to work. I think that is the hardest part is knowing that they want to be able to have them at home to spend time with them, and can’t. Still to this day it is hard for me to know that.
So what is a mom to do when she has to work full time and she breast feeds? Well I hope that this will help. If you really want to breast feed you can come in whenever you get a chance to and nurse baby. A great way to be able to do this is to find a childcare center close to work, or if you live close to work hire a nanny. That way you can go nurse and not have to worry about being gone for long. The only problem this creates is that your child may have already eaten if the childcare providers don’t know you are coming. You get maternity leave for 3 months and I would say to exclusively breast feed until then, you can pump when needed so you have a supply built up to take to child care. Introducing a bottle to early can confuse them. Then they may not want to take the breast or the bottle. (This is coming from my childcare classes, and other moms)
After all my years in childcare and taking care of babies, I have found some bottles that I like and so do parents. These are the parents recommendations and the bottles that they used in their home when they had to pump. I have personally used them all and not one are my favorite I like them all. They all work for different reasons, and I think it depends on the child. I will tell you that sometimes introducing the bottle will be hard because they are not used to it, but these will make it a little easier. These are not in any order, or by favorite I am just listing them.
- Avent Bottles- The nipple is soft and breast shaped to promote a comfortable latch. Wide neck makes cleaning easier, and it is easy for mom and baby to hold.
- Medela Calma Breast feeding bottle- This bottle is the only one of its kind developed to mimic breast feeding. Baby has to use the same sucking action and using their tongue to make the milk come out. Makes transitioning back and forth easier.
- The First Years Breast Flow- This bottle requires both suction and compression to make milk flow, just like the mom’s breast. It has a hard inner part and a flexible outer nipple. Helps babies tongue stay in place, and the inner nipple helps control flow, much like a mothers breast.
- Tomee Tippee Closer to Nature bottle- Allows for an easy transition from breast to bottle, so great for when weaning, wide neck nipple for easy latch on, wide neck bottle for easy cleaning, Has milliliters, and ounces, and comes with a cap for travel.
- Comotomo- Wide neck for easier cleaning, wide nipple for easy latching, and it has a air vent in the nipple to prevent gas. Easy for mom and baby to hold
- Dr. Browns Wide Neck Bottles- Help prevent gas, and fluid in babies ears, easy to hold for mom and baby, nipple is big and soft for easy latching, and has a patented vent to help prevent gas.
- Playtex Nurser Bottles- Nipple made to simulate moms breast, comes in drop ins or regulars, designed for comfort, reduces gas, and is pediatrician recommended.
- Lansinoh Momma Feeding Bottle- Has a ventilation system to reduce gas, easy to hold for mom and baby, wide neck bottle for easy cleaning, Has cap for easy traveling.
There are also some books that you might find helpful too:
- The Breastfeeding Book: Everything You Need to Know About Nursing Your Child from Birth Through Weaning By: William Sears- M.D.
- Complete book of Breast Feeding By: Workman Publishing
- The Complete Breast Feeding Book By: Emma Lockhart
- The Complete Book of Breast Feeding By: Laura Marks M.D. and Sally Wendkos Olds
Well that is it for me for today, I hope you find this helpful. I would love you to share your tips for other moms out there, who are working moms but still want to breast feed, and I would love to hear what bottles you used. Thanks guys for all your support.